What Makes us Wholehearted?

The scientist mind of mine remembers a quote from somewhere that says that – That which cannot be measured does not exist.

The poet mind of mine grapples with that quote. It surely fits in when one wants to measure a data from an experiment, however how would one fit the message from the quote in daily life.  For example how does one measure people? What does one measure about people?

My friends?

 My neighbors?

Are people mere data ?

Or wait a minute…

….Data with souls?

As I prodded further I asked myself this question- What is the most important thing for all of us? And the more I struggled with this question the more I realized that all of us look for connectivity. In one way or another.  Connectivity through internet, TV, meeting friends and in all possible ways. And the more I thought on these lines the more I realized that it is how we connect that makes us measurable or immeasurable- mere data with souls (metaphorically).  

When people connect with each other, some keep a big part of themselves that would make them vulnerable hidden. They connect but behind the walls of ego in a sense of separateness. And then there are other type- the ones who connect wholeheartedly. For them it is alright to be vulnerable. For them it is alright to show love with all their heart even when there was no guarantee, for them it is alright that they be seen as they are- good or bad. And the most important trait of such people is that they do not numb themselves to any emotions. They have accepted being sad some days- not denied those moments. Denying sadness would mean that one wants to forget it temporarily by watching a movie or eating more or with some other means. And they rejoice in their struggle. I have fought with this statement that I just wrote- what does it “feel like” when one says that one rejoices in struggle? I think it simply means that one remembers the struggle and still happily goes ahead to give oneself permission to laugh at anything that was hilarious. Such wholehearted people- when do not deny sadness, would also not deny themselves the other emotions as well- those of love, happiness, cheerfulness.  They did not make themselves numb! They laugh, sing, dance, rejoice and show who they are as they are when they want to as they have given themselves permission to be the other as well.

To be wholehearted always, to be "un-numb", to become vulnerable is what makes a person. That can never be measured ever. That can be felt. To connect wholeheartedly in any way makes us people- with height, weight, age- measured as numbers with soul effect- the whole heartedness.

So that quote that-

That cannot be a measure does not exist was must have been written by a scientist. Not by a poet, not a philosopher.