Avoidance and Endurance to become a Winner

This post is triggered by a friend going through her inner traumas that made her recluse for a while to come out as a winner. I have merely generalized .

Traumas of childhood, gender or race discrimination, incidents in life, disease or dealing with children with severe disabilities or spouse or accidents make many people get into a habit of avoiding that which would make situation worse for them. People who do not have much control over the situations become recluse- and into tiny island of their own self as it helps them control the outer world’s input into their mind. Some would certainly shake their head in dismay as the word recluse has a negative impact.

When someone become a recluse and in that analyse their own self and their own process of thinking then that avoidance becomes very useful. In-fact the ones who are able to avoid negative impacts of the outer world and yet endure to evolve to become different are able to use the very trauma to their greatest advantage and their great evolution. The greatest aspect of such a mind is that such minds see everything as a choice that they made and in that come to realize the holistic duality of life, the  temporariness and the joy in being the best with the cards that one has.  They come out as winners. They in their ability it internalize change and come out as the ones who are then followed by others for help.

There are others who become inward but go negative blaming everyone and everything for their life. They become cynical and restless, and they look for reasons to blame. Everything falls into a category of another object the cause of their suffering. They become bitter, closed and non -friendly to most.

To forge meaning and to then use that to build an identity through life’s experiences in such a way that the identity makes you more evolved is the key. The measure of being evolved is not any outer measure- the measure of being evolved is the inner radiance that one feels – the surety in anything that one does, the decisiveness and the joy in everything, the lack of guilt and the ability to let go – a day , a moment, a year, the ability to let go trauma and even let go pleasures as momentary things. Many of us do not understand and do not like the ability to give up pleasure- one can never be forced to give up- it automatically happens and the bliss sets in of residing in oneself for the sheer joy of it. That bliss has no cause.

This state evades most people generally. That is the greatest meaning to a life that has suffered and evolved. The bliss factor that one gets when one uses the state of mind in the right way. That means that they have found their own truth which usually matches with the same Laws of the Universe irrespective of any dogmas or religion   

Forge meaning. Build identity. Forge meaning. Build identity. And then invite the world to share your joy.